FORT WORTH, TX, April 6, 2010 - Angels are real. They are all around us. Some of them are the heavenly kind; others are what we refer to here on earth as friends.
I’m talking real friends here,
Dictionary.com defines them this
Friend: a person attached to
another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
Acquaintance: a person known to
one, but not usually a close friend.
A real friend will be there for
you through mud, flood, hell, or high water; if not in person then in support.
An acquaintance will wish you
A real friend will give you a
kick in the behind if you need it.
An acquaintance won’t care
enough to make the effort.
A real friend will lay down
his/her life for another without a second thought. This means: putting one’s
self out of one’s comfort zone; although it can mean dying for another too.
Family members can be either
friend or acquaintance.
In many instances friends offer a
lot more real support and love than one’s own family.
Families frequently assign roles
to their members. A person is put in a mold and expected to live it throughout
life. Fair or not family members often cannot see past who they think you are.
This is one of the reasons it
takes real courage to change your life. To go against family is to risk losing
your safety net and/or support. Sometimes it’s like cutting off a leg or an
arm. When you change your role, it forces their expectations of you to change -
and no one likes change.
It goes against human nature.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not
anti-family, not by a long shot. I just believe that it’s okay to change with
or without your family’s approval. Unfortunately this can also result in losing
them, temporarily, or for good.
The angels we call friends see
you with fresh eyes. They don’t have the prejudices and blind expectations that
family members often have. You get a clean slate when you make a new friend.
Some friendships are cultivated
over a number of years. Others are made and grow deep within a short span of
time. Some friendships last a lifetime and others, for whatever reason, don’t
last long at all.
Real friends encourage, cheer,
and have an endless supply of waterproof shoulders for you to cry on. A real
friend won’t steer you wrong. They will roll up their sleeves and get down in
the dirt with you if necessary.